Making the other person feel important
This is part of general good manners and diplomacy. And your communication skills will be a crucial element in winning back your ex, especially if the lack of them led to your break-up in the first place! You could find that to win back your ex you use this skill more than you ever have before - and if you can use it within a relationship it will get you through many a rough patch! Did you listen to your partner? Did you think about what they said, and offer your own contribution towards it (not arguing or finding objections)? Did you say appropriate things in response to their comments, and pay attention to them? Were you willing to reschedule your work or engagements to make room for activities together?
Possessiveness/Clinginess
Strangely enough, some very successful relationships depend on the partners NOT seeing too much of each other. It's true that it's no fun missing someone when they're not there for you - but it's SO good to see them when you are together at last and there's SO much to talk about! That should give you a clue: if you didn't give your ex enough time and space to enjoy his or her own life too, they may have felt 'claustrophobic' and wishing sometimes for a break. Making someone feel wanted doesn't have to mean that they can't go out with their own friends and have their own time too. Most strategies to win back an ex,also emphasise the fact that you need to give them time and space!
Using your partner as a 'complaints department'
The world is a difficult place to live in, often irritating and frustrating. A good relationship is a 'safe place' where such worldly complaints don't have such power because you're a team working together to succeed. Of course part of the relationship is being able to 'let off steam' occasionally but if your conversations were too full of complaints, negativity and the bad things of life such as work-related worries or family problems then it is not surprising if you end up with an ex instead of a lover.
Dropping out the creativity
It's ironic that most of the ways recommended for you to win back your ex the things that are automatically part of the start of any good relationship. No, not flowers, chocolates, text-messages, or love-letters but your creativity where those things came from … the feelings of freshness, excitement and slight uncertainty about the relationship, willingness to explore the other person's personality with interest, to show affection and express one's own feelings and treat every day as a brand-new day. This would include making sure that the time you did spend together was fun - going out, planning special events and doing enjoyable things together. Taking love for granted is a short way to turnind from lovers to now trying to win your ex back.
As you can see there are delicate balances to strike between making someone feel wanted and making them feel overwhelmed, between giving them enough of their own time and space and making them feel neglected. It's easy to make mistakes and there's no reason to blame yourself - what can you gain from that? But by looking at what might have gone wrong in your relationship, you can correct it for next time … and if you want to win back your , these are also the areas you should be paying attention to in order to bring the magic back
