tips to help you get back your ex.

1. No begging, no bribing, and no apologising!

You've lost someone you love. You want that closeness again, you're desperate to have your ex back in your arms, and the temptation is to try to demonstrate how much you neeeeeeeeed that person in your life. Don't do it! Cry on a friend's shoulder in private if you must, but NEVER your ex's. You will drive them further away. Remember when you got together? It wasn't because your ex perceived you as weak! So part of your gameplan is to be strong, keep your pride and succeed as much as possible in life. These 'strong survival qualities' will be attractive to your ex … and may even get them curious about you again … and will definitely make you feel better about yourself, life and the future.

4. Just Be Yourself

It's similar to the above point, but it goes a lot further in some ways. The person your ex fell in love with is the person you need to be again now in order to get back your ex. But that doesn't mean you can create an 'artificial you' - nobody is going to fall in love with a Disney version of your personality! It can be difficult to strike the right balance between staying cheerful and on top of life (even when you don't feel like it) and acting naturally and 'really yourself' - but try to make it work. If you're being yourself, your life is much more likely to go the way you really want it to.

3. Don't see too much of your ex!

It's probably the last piece of advice you want to hear - or maybe it's the first one you thought of yourself. Either way, it's very important! Both of you need a bit of time and space to recover, reflect and then reconsider your relationship. So … don't send that impulsive text message. Don't call! Leave incoming calls to go to ansafone. No letters and no meetings, just for a while. SOMETHING went wrong with your relationship, and until you've worked out a plan of action to get back your ex in an organised and sensible manner, don't risk pressing any more of the wrong buttons.

4. Live more, not less

Closed rooms and closed minds get stuffy. If you sit at home and brood, or turn your thoughts inwards, you will only end up feeling worse and more depressed. The answers aren't printed on the inside of your forehead, unfortunately! Open the windows of your life. Phone your friends - take up a new sport - throw yourself into work - spend time with the children in your family. If you're relaxed and enjoying yourself, you'll find that your mind works much more effectively to give you real answers about how to get back your ex in the real world - not just in your imagination.

5. Compromise is the heart of successful negotiation

This is also crucial to any success in your efforts to get back your ex. Fixed ideas are destructive to any kind of teamwork, so think about what compromises you can make in order to make things work. That doesn't mean you have to 'give in' to their every demand! Compromise is a two-way deal, which is why it really works. But really look at what your ex needs and wants, and work out how you can accommodate those needs. You've both got a ways to go towards each other. Try to meet half-way.
Best of luck to you. Go steady, and KEEP GOING!

It is highly stressful to experience the loss of a love
relationship whether it's with a friend, family member, or lover. There are actually significant similarities between a bereavement and a break-up! In both cases, people experience loneliness, stress, grief, depression, anxiety and other negative emotions. Relationships are always a tricky thing, but never more so than when just one of the partners in a broken love relationship is trying to put it back together. The 'one-sidedness' can make it often seem that the other simply doesn't care. If you are the one trying to get back your ex, but you can't seem to get anywhere, don't give up! However bad your break-up was, the following five tips will help you patch things back together and work towards a better, happier, rosier future - together.