The other reason why I hate to plan my life is: I reckon that if you make a plan of action, then you are leaving the door open for it to go wrong. But without a plan there is very little that can really go wrong because nothing states what you should or shouldn't do - so therefore there is nothing to dictate what was 'right' or 'wrong' about it … That's my justifications for living like a loose cannon!
What about you … do you plan?
Whether you do or don't - or if you are, like me, an 'anti-planner', it has it's been proven conclusively that people's chances of getting back
together are increased dramatically if they have a game plan.
Why? Because a plan is something that lays down a route to an end-goal, and that plan can prevent distractions from taking you away from your next step on the path to success.
Now! You're not stupid and you didn't need me to tell you that. But let me ask you this:
How do you feel emotionally right now? Regarding your ex?
Most people after a break-up go through some kind of emotional upheaval and this is not the time to be led by emotional decisions. Emotional decisions are usually made with the heart and not the head and hearts are not known for realistic wisdom … If you ask a person a question and tell them the answer must come from their heart you will get an opinion and not a fact and it is FACTS that get results not opinions.
You have to understand that getting back together with your ex is not about your thoughts and considerations on the relationship any more. It's all about your ex's thoughts and considerations about the relationship. Now, your ex's thoughts, considerations, points of view, opinions and decisions belong wholly and solely to your ex. They can't be permanently changed by anyone but your ex.
However, you can influence those thoughts, feelings and considerations. You can cause your ex to willingly and on their volition change and alter their own considerations etc about getting back together. And you can do this to your advantage and get your ex back!
By using a well crafted and proven game plan you stand a better chance of following a logic route that works in the real world, rather than following "hit and miss gut feelings" which may feel true to you but might not work in the real world!
A game-plan for getting back together does not have to be complex and you don't have to be a genius either. In fact, you only have to be "yourself." Now, I can't emphasise that enough! " Getting back together with your ex" only requires you to be yourself! So don't do as many jilted lovers do, and start trying to drastically change your personality in the hopes of getting back together.
It won't work!
But while being yourself, you can apply a really sneaky underhand technique on them that will make them start to question their own thoughts about not getting back together. To do this you have to introduce DOUBT. You need to have your ex start to question their own decisions about the break-up, and their present decisions about 'not getting back together'.
You "sow the seed of doubt."
You gently move your ex over from a position of being 100% correct for dumping you, to a position of "doubt"…"Was I right or was I wrong?" … "Should I do this or should I do that?"
And like any seed sown in the right environment it will take root … but be careful. Just like growing a plant, you can't rush it. But you can certainly help it along. Just give it the right conditions and it will grow!
Creating the all-important game plan to get back together
All tasks in life generally require some kind of plan. Even if it is loosely made up in our heads and then badly executed, it was still some kind of plan!
I personally feel that a project without a plan can be that little bit more exciting than a project that is rigidly planned. Rather than following a rigid plan of action, I prefer to just go off and try and do things - or go places 'ad hoc' and see how things end up.
In fact I am probably the world's worst planner. Maybe that's why I never aspired to all the dreams of youth, but I am not complaining. At least I will go to my grave singing "I did it my way" (Sex Pistols version!)
Well, some people will either try to flirt with their ex directly or else flirt with another guy or gal with the view of trying to make their ex take them back,through jealousy.
But will this work?
Let me try and sum it up in just one word: "dangerous."
Why?
First, when you are suffering from a broken heart or a feeling of sadness and despondency, the last thing you need to do is make things more complicated or get into any kind of rembarrassing situation that you may later regret.
And secondly, although flirting can be fun - and let's face facts, nearly everyone can be guilty of inappropriate flirting at some time or another, even if it is only done lightly - neverthless, flirting done incorrectly can make you appear cheap, lecherous or sleazy. That can be a definite turn-off for most of the opposite sex, whereas flirting done intelligently and eloquently with style and taste can give you unparalleled sex appeal. It is important to know that if you want to be successful in your endeavours to win or win back the opposite sex that you realize and know the difference between cheap flirting and classy flirting.
So if you are prepared to take the challenge to 'flirt back your ex' or even to attract a new lover, then make sure you know what you are doing …
Sometimes, after a break-up,
one can be very tempted
to try to 'flirt back their ex.'
What is flirting back an ex?
