Set the mood
If you're an adult, express grown-up feelings in your letter. Here's a useful tip: to better express your heartfelt feelings for your ex, get yourself into a romantic mood first.
Please don't try to write a love-letter while you are at work ... or on a bus ... or, worse, drunk in a pub. Find yourself a quiet room and play some of your favorite romantic music. You could even try lighting some candles - sounds silly but it works like crazy!
You could even steal a quote from one of the grand masters of romance
such as Shakespeare's 'my super dainty Kate' from The Taming of The
Shrew. There are stacks of stuff from the classics, so go and have a scout
around the Internet. Don't forget that you could include a little verse from
one of the great poets ... like 'Twice or thrice had I loved thee Before I knew
thy face or name' ... it all goes to impress!
Warning … don't speell there naim rong!
Greetings
Choose a soft and romantic greeting to start your letter. Don't be formal - greetings like 'dear Jane Smith /Thomas Jones' are stiff and cold. You don't want your ex to think it is a letter from your attorney! Think of your love's first name andthink of how you can decorate it or make it more poetic-sounding - for example 'To my darling Jane', or 'My
dearest, sweetest Thomas'.
The Contents
A love letter is a very personal thing between you and your ex and only you know what to say. However, some general rules apply! The main body of your letter should definitely say why you fell in love with them in the first place -you could even mention how you felt when you first met, the excitement of the first date, that sleepless night you had after the first kiss, etc. Don't forget to list all those wonderful qualities your ex has, and you should always try to explain clearly and romantically why you can't bear to be apart. A great love letter is about you and your heart, so turn on the tap and let it pour.
Another word of warning: no rude jokes, sexual connotations, smut or anything that you feel your ex could interpret as such.
Closing
Close the letter with something upbeat and romantic, not 'Yours sincerely', or 'Yours faithfully, Mr or Miss X' … this is not going to get your love 'sizzling in the pan', and even just saying 'Love, Tom' at the end can show a lack of imagination. Put your heart into it. You need a heartfelt, simple goodbye, for example 'Forever yours' or 'With all my heart'. Or something better, use that romantic attitude that originally brought you both together, i.e. 'You're the face of a thousand dreams', or 'Waiting for the sunlight of your gaze'...
Don't worry about sounding soppy - heartfelt soppiness is as old as love itself, and has been successfully turning around broken relationships like yours since the day man first met woman. In fact, your ex may have left you because of your lack of it, so now may be the time to catch up!
Sending It
Never, ever send a love-letter in a brown manila envelope - you're
not sending them a bill! A pretty envelope is just as important as the
letter,so don't skimp at this point and make sure the design of your
envelopeannounces what is inside it: a love-letter! You could also try
something special like perfuming it so it smells romantic when your ex
opens it; or what about some classy stickers or a seal on the back?
Some people recommend adding some dried flower-petals into the envelope, or maybe a sprinkle of those small stars you can buy from art and craft shops. Use common sense - don't put anything too messy in - a letter covered in chocolate or fudge is not likely to have the kind of effect you were hoping for. You could add a decorative stamp and stick it upside down: in Europe, this means 'I love you'. Remember, in romance small details can make a powerful effect, use them!
