If you have ever been in a bad relationship or have suffered a break-up and got back together then you may know what it is like to experience a relationship depression
Initially when two people you get back together after a breakup that both feel a feeling of elation, but strangely enough under that feeling of happiness you can also actually feel depressed because you know deep down that the partnership is riddled with problems.
Nearly all relationships experience some sort of rough patches here and there and if you have had a relationship with its fair share of problems and miraculously you have still held together then theoretically you should be happy right? If you relationship has gone through its up's and downs and the pair of you are still together then clearly there is no practical reason why you would experience any form of relationships depression, so why do you?
Going through a tough patch in a relationship you can go through all sorts of human emotions, from sadness, anger, to the feeling of "I just want to quite and walk out now" Sometimes the main reason for experiencing difficult patches can be something that is very hard to ever get forget. For example, if you partner has been cheating on you then even if you and both still firmly together you're probably still having a hard time trying to forget about what happen. Getting over infidelity takes time and even longer to regain the trust in your partner. In circumstances such as these feeling depressed is totally understandable and to some extent only normal.
But getting depressed is not something that only those that have been cheated on get because relationship depression can also affect the cheater, due to the guilt of hurting the one they love. They are pleased that they have got forgiveness you but they can't shake off enormous guilt for the pain they have caused. They will very often feel that their partner has lost all trust in them and are still deeply suspicious of everything they do.
Even relationship that have never had cheating or infidelity involved there may be other deep rooted issues that can begin to cause depression. If your relationship ever went through a break-up or came close to breaking up, then there must be some underplaying issues and problems that have brought the relationship boiling point.
It is not uncommon for people to wonder if their partner really does want to be with them even thought they though they are still together. Thoughts and considerations such as this can create a feeling of insecurity about the relationship.
When a partnership is at breaking point up or on the verge of breaking up then both parties can expect to go through an emotional rollercoaster ride. Living in fear of the relationship reaching breaking point again is quite common for people who have not been able to completely get over past upsets.
You may even find yourself unable to stop thinking about anything and every thing that you feel is wrong about your relationship and on the other hand you are permanent worry about breaking up. This constant negative thinking and perpetual worrying are great ingredients for relationship depressions.
Living with someone when there is a lot of tension between you is extremely difficult. Even if you break up and get back together there still may be some unattended to issues that need to be dealt with and until they are looked at and resolved then there may always be a degree of tension between you and your spouse.
Saving a relationship from break up always feels great! But if the problems that caused the relationship to get to breaking point have not been dealt with the relationship will not continue on a happy path.
