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Things I've Learned 2: "Give your partner some personal space."

People like to snuggle and cuddle. But they also need their personal space as well. Males have a tendency to be possessive. And sometimes they like to keep a watchful eye on what their partners are doing, where they are, and who are they with. But in my experience both sexes get even more watchful if they ever had a partner who cheated on them. Trust was a key component in my good relationships. When I invaded my partner's personal space too much, and too often, I sent the message that I didn't trust her. That kind of lack of trust will kill off any relationship.

Things I've Learned 3: "You get stronger over time."

Trying to go through life with the pains and frustration of being dumped can be very difficult, I sometimes even believed that I would never get over the break up. But the truth is, not only does time heal most pains, but also you will emerge from the break up a stronger person, believe me.

Things I've Learned 4: "It's okay if it wasn't meant to be."

Whether we like the idea or not, we can't deny that some relationships are just not meant to be. Now, if you can accept that (quicker than I used to) then the pains and agony of being dumped generally heal a lot faster. Maybe you had started planning your relationship into the future - looking at marriage, thinking about kids - and then you were told, "It's over." Trust me, if this relationship was one of those that just "wasn't meant to be," then being dumped was a blessing in disguise. It is better to end a relationship that wasn't meant to be earlier rather than later.

Things I've Learned 5: "Good things in life are not free - you have to work for them."

Finally, the last lesson I learned from being dumped that I want to share with you is that you can control what happened in your relationship. Life is full of ups and downs: you win some and you lose some. To be a winner, you only have to win more than you lose - but you can't win unless you play!

That means for you what it meant for me. I had to pick myself up, dust myself off, and "get back on the horse". I went out, I met new potential partners. I even had some fun. Eventually, like me, you will find another, happier relationship. And, if you have followed the advice in this article about things I've learned from being dumped, your next relationship (like mine) will be even better and stronger than the last one.

Things I've Learned from Being Dumped

Oh yeah! It's true, I have been dumped. In fact, I have been dumped more times than I care to remember; and between you and me, it's a lot more that I would care to admit, too. And, yes, it hurts - it always hurts - but I have learned some useful lessons!

Things I've Learned 1: "It always takes two."

Even though being dumped hurt me, it was always too easy to lay the blame at the feet of my ex for my misery and pain. The fact is, if the relationship was no longer working, I must have been part of the problem. So ... it could be worthwhile taking a step back and examining your relationship just to see if there are any lessons you could learn for next time.